Happiness in a Nutshell #74 - The POWER of ACCEPTANCE September 19 2016

 Happiness in a Nutshell #74



Lots of people admire those Hollywood stars with “perfect” faces and “sculpted” bodies.

I admire Danny DeVito. Four feet ten inches tall and bald! (That’s 1.47 metres.)

He’s an actor, he’s a producer, he’s a director, he’s funny. He’s an inspiration!

Imagine Danny DeVito’s career if he had been angry or bitter. There would be no career!

When I started high school, I was also tiny. The big kids used to pick me up and throw me over the fence! This continued for several years.

I hated being small.

My Mom tried to explain to me that there are some things in life you can change and some you can’t. She said, “Learn to accept what you can’t change and go to work on the rest.”

And guess what I have discovered … happy and successful people all seem to know about my Mom’s advice.

The Good News:

Here is the good news: most things about yourself you can change …

It’s hard to change your height.

But you can change your habits.

You can change how you think about yourself.

You can change what you say about yourself.

You can change what you eat.

You can develop your skills.

You can improve your relationships.

You can change your saving habits.

You can change your friends.

And you can change your attitude.

You are a human being! You are not a tree!

For more about accepting what you can’t change and improving what you can, listen to my latest Being Happy! Podcast #5: The Power of Acceptance.

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Happiness in A Nutshell - What Matters Most March 11 2015

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What Matters Most?

Psychological studies show that happy and successful people have something in common. What do you think that something is?

Are they all trendy, famous, skinny – or millionaires?

Here’s what the studies show: successful people ALL have a network of friends or family they depend on.

One amazing study, The Harvard Men Only study, lasted 70 years. It followed 268 men from their entrance into college in the late 1930’s. It monitored how each man handled setbacks and disappointment – and who flourished.

In 2009, director of the study for the last 40 years, George Valiant, said he could summarize the study’s finding in one word. The critical ingredient for success he said was: “Love – full stop”.

So what do we do with this information?

We adjust our priorities. The strategy, “First I’ll be successful – and then I’ll fix my relationships” doesn’t work. Love comes first.

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Secondly, we can adopt some simple habits to nurture our relationships, for example:

  • be a “good finder” – we look for good things in friends and family
  • be flexible – we don’t demand that people always agree with us
  • be imperfect – we don’t have to always be right
  • let people know we love them, and
  • give those we love our full attention – and sometimes, switch off our mobile phone!

    In a Nutshell

    Love is our foundation.

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